Purity culture taught us a lot of things, how to dress, how to act, how to remain “pure.” But one thing it never taught? How to hold men accountable.
Instead, we were taught to cover up, not just our bodies, but their behavior.
And when you’re married to the so-called “nice guy,” it becomes even more confusing. Because no one believes you when you start to call out the uncomfortable things you’ve seen. They just say, “Really? Him?”
But I was there. I saw it all. And this is what purity culture never prepared me for.
There’s nothing pleasant about a wound that lingers for weeks. For many older adults, this slow
repair process is a regular part of life. Skin feels thinner, bruises take their time fading, and even
small blisters can turn into a drawn-out problem. Aging naturally changes how the body heals,
but that doesn’t mean there is nothing we can do. The right approach can make a significant
difference.
There’s a hard truth most people don’t want to hear: You can’t grow if you’re always blaming someone else.
We’ve all met people who think every bad thing in their life is someone else's fault. They’ve got a reason for everything. “I was late because of traffic.” “I didn’t get that promotion because my boss plays favorites.” “I can’t save money because bills keep piling up.” Sure, sometimes those things are true, but when it’s always something, it’s time to look inward.
This post isn’t for people going through genuinely hard times outside their control. This is about the people who live in a constant state of woe is me, never reflecting, never changing, and never growing, because taking responsibility would mean admitting they have a part in their own problems.
Healing is a journey, one that doesn’t happen overnight, and doesn’t have to. If you’re finding your way after heartbreak, divorce, trauma, or years of putting others first, this 30‑day mantra and journal prompt series is designed to walk beside you every step of the way.
Each day gives you an affirmation to ground you and a prompt to deepen your reflection. Together, they can help you build trust in yourself, honor your feelings, and create space for belonging within.
There’s something quietly powerful about the little things in life. A warm mug of tea while the house still sleeps. A sticky note tucked on a bathroom mirror. Five slow breaths before the school morning rush kicks off. These tiny rituals don’t require much effort, but somehow, they hold everything together.
In the beautiful chaos of family life—packed lunches, overdue emails, endless laundry—these micro-moments become anchors. They’re not flashy, but they’re meaningful. They offer calm in the middle of the busy day. Steadiness in the swirl of “what’s next?”
Because joy doesn’t always roar. Sometimes it whispers.
