I can't really go into any details here but there were discrepancies with my father's life insurance and trying to figure it out has been obnoxious and stressing. Honestly, the whole thing is ridiculous. If I could take all the money and give it away to have him back, then I would.
Updated 2/15/23:“When I initially wrote this post, I was worried that I would step on people’s toes. But since people thought I was the bad guy because my step-mom ran her mouth around, then here is the truth.
She filed a paper that apparently my dad signed, but it was illegal because she was his power of attorney. On my dad’s death bed, she was going through his jewelry box calculating how much money (out loud) she could get for different pink diamonds he had. Anyways, There were separate life insurance policies; one for her and one for my brother and I. She wanted them both. When she got the paper work in the mail that my brother and I were suppose to fill out, she freaked. Then she consulted an attorney and told me not to fill it out. Can you say shady? Then she said she would give us $1000, but in bonds. When I said we could use it now, she said “oh I would only have to pay like $30 and she would get it when she was 18”. But she told my family I was money hungry. She also told me I needed my grandmother’s China cabinet (when she was moving to an assisted living facility) so I asked my grandmother, then my step-mom told everyone I was just money hungry and wanting things. Told them I was never around before my dad passed when I would come there everyday on my way home from work. She said to me I should have quit my job to take care of my dad, but yet she had no job and was his 15 year younger wife.
I had the paperwork because she gave it to me before she freaked out not knowing what to do and so I decided to call them, they told me to fill out the paperwork and to not listen to anything she said.
Unfortunately I consulted a lawyer friend (who wasn’t practicing in our state) that made us more scared by saying my step-mother could drag this out for years costing us a bunch of money that we didn’t have if we were to fight. We were young (24 and 26) with a baby on the way. So we went to mediation with her. We said we would split it into thirds. She got pissed and said my husband was running everything, this was on purpose so she wouldn’t run all over my brother and I. I shouldn’t have done the mediation because I was suppose to be in bed rest because of my blood pressure. She said that she always treated me like her own daughter, which was never true. She was always cruel to me and jealous of me. She would purposely go out of her way to be mean to me.
When we received our portion of the life insurance money, we went to her apartment and saw she was driving a red Mustang. She had bought a new car. This is how we knew she was lying and found out about the other policy, plus my mom had told me later.
This is why I believe in helping your children even when they are adults. Make a safe place so they feel like they can come to you for advice.
My step-mom is now remarried, but only in the Lord’s eyes as she straight up told me to my face so she can keep receiving my dad’s social security and veterans benefits.”
On a happier note, Greg got his promotion!!! :D
And I felt the baby move again today and she was moving ALOT!
That's really all. I'll go into more detail about stuff when I can. Now, off to find something to eat! :]
BTW I don't know what I would do without my husband, He is my rock.
Today (well technically yesterday now) was our doctor's appointment with the 20 week ultrasound and we found out that we are having a little girl and she is developing PERFECTLY!
She is 12 oz, we could see her strong heartbeat, she was moving ALOT (which I actually felt today), and we could see her spine. She was moving her mouth alot (like mommy) and didn't want to smile for the camera (like daddy). She is also right on target with her due date. I thought at first that Hubby was disappointed she was a girl but he said it was just that he was more scared now and she isn't leaving the house until she is thirty. :] Here are some pictures (I'll post more once my phone isn't being crappy):
The crazy thing is, I had a dream over the weekend that my dad was changing the baby's diaper but we had a ribbon-like cord connecting me & the baby and he said, "Look at your little girl." and he showed me and I said, "No I am not suppose to find out yet!" And so he covered her up. Isn't that crazy?!
I called my step-mom and then I thought "O I need to call my dad" and then cried when I realized. Today was also stressful for other reasons. I guess because I feel that my dad cared about this baby more than is being considered. But I'll have to get over that. Sometimes I wish I didn't have to do certain things and could make my life as stress free as possible. Well, anyways. We are having a girl! My dad wanted me to have a boy, I hope he isn't disappointed. But I'm just happy that she's healthy. :]
Since I get to have my the little ones here, I'm going to do a few things while they are napping.
1. Mop the floors in the kitchen and bathroom.
2. laundry (if I don't put it here, it won't get done)
3. dishes (which makes me think, it's almost lunch time.)
There are also a few things that need to be done before the baby comes. Hopefully I'll plan one each month and they will all get done. :]
1. Finish painting the spare bedroom and hall way. (I mean it's been almost 3 years!) I'm not sure yet if we are going to use this as the nursery or not. Whichever room we choose we need to put a ceiling fan in. But I want all the painting done!
2. get a contract on the house for an exterminator
3. clean carpets or get them cleaned
4. fix dish washer or buy new one
5. fix laundry room doors. (They are off their hinges and need a part to be put back on.)
6. clean garage (this may be a multiple day project)
I'm going to start to try doing this:
Seems like a good idea and maybe can help me get off my butt and get things done! :]
Though you cannot always see
the bird singing,
if you listen with your heart,
you can always hear his song.
I got a card that said this and thought it was so beautiful.
Every day I miss him. To think that I will never see his face again. He would have been a great grandfather. I told Greg that I want him to make sure he tells his dad just how important he is to him and tell him he loves him everyday because you never when their time on earth will be over. My daddy suffered for seven years. After his stroke it was like he was given a second chance at life but a limited one. He could walk but with difficulties, my step-mom had to help him get dressed and fix his meals. She says she feels lost without him and that she doesn't know what to do with her life anymore. I'm so grateful to have her in my life, I don't know what I would do without her. Cancer is just one of those things that is like luck of the draw. And that's why I want Greg and his sisters to tell their father how much he means today because they may not know if he'll have a tomorrow.
I know it's really late and I need to go to bed. But I needed to get this out. I love him so much. Just because I can't see him doesn't mean he isn't with me. ♥
I'm going to try and do this every week so you can get a better look at how I'm doing instead of just what's suppose to be going on. lol :]
How far along? 20 weeks and 1 day (as of today)
Total weight gain: Not exactly sure. I'll let you know on Tuesday. :] Maybe I should do these after my monthly appointments. lol
Maternity clothes?: My mother-in-law has been buying me the cutest things. :] I can only fit into one pair of my old jeans and shorts but I can still pretty much wear my old shirts, although I love all my new maternity clothes way better. ;]
Sleep: It's getting harder to sleep. A little more uncomfortable and I can't sleep in like I use to because it kills my back.
Cravings: ice cream YUM!
Best moment this week: That I'm half way there!
Movement: I have felt some flutters but nothing crazy yet.
Gender: We find out Tuesday at 9am. :]
Labor Signs: NONE! Thank goodness.
Belly Button in or out? It's still in.
What I miss: Hanging out with friends and not getting so tired when we're out! lol
Milestones: Sick of getting sick! My nausea hasn't gone away. It's better than in the first trimester but I still wish it would be gone. Sometimes it's the only reason I know I'm pregnant.
Favorite Moments: Everyday when I leave work Phillip says, "Bye Nah-Nah(his name for me). And Bye baby." :]
Plus, I love that Greg is actually more willing to talk to the baby now that I'm getting a little bump. :]
***All Pictures found on Photobucket: Pregnancy Icons.
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