Putting Yourself First as A Mom & Why It's Important

All moms have demanding lives which means that their health and wellbeing is often put on the backburner. However, in order to be the very best mum to your children, it’s crucial that your own self-care is a priority on your to-do list.

It’s okay to take a moment for yourself or get the help and support you need, especially if you happen to be feeling completely overwhelmed or finding yourself struggling to cope with personal issues. There are moments when making the decision to put yourself first will help you become a better parent, but why should you?

1. To be healthy and fit to take care of your children

Being a mom is a 24-hour job, which can be even more stressful when you’re trying to hold down a job and take care of other responsibilities. However, when you’re overtired, stressed or suffering from mental health or addictions, it can be difficult to give each member of your family, from youngest to oldest, the very best care. There is only so long you can keep things ticking over before it will all start to crumble. Mental health and addiction are illnesses which can be overcome by seeking the right help. Professionals such as those at Forward Recovery can help you find the underlying cause of addictions and can provide you with the very best tools to help you on the road to recovery once and for all.

2. To find some time for yourself

Although it’s important you’re always there for your kids when they need you; it’s just as important to take some time away for yourself to re-charge your batteries. Take a walk, see your friends or perhaps join the gym and socialize with new people. Doing activities you enjoy should make you feel much happier in yourself, which will then reflect on your kids and make them feel content too.

3. To not lose your identity

It’s very easy to feel an overwhelming sense of guilt when you put yourself first over your children, but remember that being a mom is not your sole identity. You’re also a daughter, employee, wife or girlfriend, sibling and friend too; meaning there are so many other people in your life that deserve your attention. It can be tough for this to become acceptable in your mind, as parenting comes with so many responsibilities that it’s easy to neglect those around you. Remember who you are as a person to gain a well-balanced life.

4. To be a role model

All moms wish for is their children to look up to them as they grow up. One of the most important pieces of advice you’re likely to give your child is for them to put themselves before others whenever they feel pressured or know they need to do what’s best for them, regardless of what others may think. By putting yourself first on the odd occasion, you’ll be agreat role model for your children, who will then be likely to lead by your example.


  1. very good tips,,its hard to find time for yourself when you have a family

  2. Ashley Chassereau Parks4/03/2019 10:11:00 PM

    These would be so wonderful to have in place. I feel like I'm nothing, but mom these days with no time for much else. I hope it won't be like that forever.. maybe in a few years, I will have more time when they are a bit older.

  3. This is so good to remember--thanks for sharing!

  4. Excellent tips but hard to follow.

  5. I'm not a Mom, but I have seen enough in my 54 years to know you're right. Moms need to take care of themselves too. Drop the kids off with the aunt, like me, and go have some me time!

  6. Great tips! Not always easy, but a happy Mama = happy kids!

  7. I can tell that you’re a mom, because one of the first things you mentioned was “Being a mom is a 24-hour job!” That is such a true fact! The job doesn’t end when your children are adults either!! It’s easy to lose yourself- even some friends, because you don’t have enough time for them! Not after finding time with work, kids, doctors, husband, grocery shopping, schools, homework, bills, etc. I had to quit my bowling team, my Bingo night and we gave up a lot of date nights. The more kids I had, the less time I had! I wouldn’t have traded those days for anything!! Children are blessings!


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