Understanding Grief: Finding Solace After Losing a Family Member

Losing a family member is an event that often leaves us feeling lost, overwhelmed, and consumed by a whirlwind of emotions. Grief, the natural response to loss, can be a complex and deeply personal experience. It is important to understand that there is no right or wrong way to grieve and that everyone's journey through grief is unique. Here are the different stages of grief, provide tips on how to cope with loss, and discuss the importance of seeking support during this difficult time.

Understanding Grief: Finding Solace After Losing a Family Member

How to Help Your Loved One Heal After a Life-Changing Injury

A life-changing injury can be a traumatic experience not just for the person who is injured, but also for their loved ones. As a family member or friend, it can be challenging to know how to help and support your loved one during this difficult time. However, there are things you can do to make the rehabilitation and healing process easier for both of you.

How to Help Your Loved One Heal After a Life-Changing Injury

In this blog post, we will discuss some practical ways to provide emotional and physical support, as well as resources that can aid in the recovery process. By being there for your loved one, you can make a significant difference in their journey towards healing. Here's how to help your loved one heal after a life-changing injury.

A Day of Rememberance: Where were you?

I remember being in my homeroom class. I was a Sophomore in High School. My English teacher, although I can't remember his name, was on the National Reserves. He left the room abruptly as the 20 or so teens in the class were left dazed and confused as to what was going on. Then someone turned on the TV. They turned it on as a joke but what we saw terrified us all.

Classes no longer mattered. They just muddled together.

Third period was my favorite class. Chorus. My best friend was in there. Her brother-in-law worked at the Pentagon and we had just learned it had been hit as well. My friends prayed together as a group. Our Choir Instructor let her leave to try and call her sister. Fortunately he was out sick that day.

Final period our class went to the Library to watch the footage. I felt exhausted arriving to the Library. I had been a long emotional day. But then watching the footage of the men and woman helping save others, I felt selfish. I was no longer tired.

My Father came to pick me up that day. Others had already left for the day. We went home and watched and waited. It was agonizing. And I cried. I had no idea why I was crying at the time. But I know now I was crying for all those people and their families. And the people trying to save them.

I was young and self-centered back then. It was the first time in my life something outside of my own existence had impacted me. And although I wasn't involved, how could I not look at those images and not be impacted? How can I still look at those images and not be impacted? How can anyone?

So my questions is, where were you that day? Do you remember what you were doing? How you felt?

Drama, Drama, Drama

I can't really go into any details here but there were discrepancies with my father's life insurance and trying to figure it out has been obnoxious and stressing. Honestly, the whole thing is ridiculous. If I could take all the money and give it away to have him back, then I would.

Updated 2/15/23:
“When I initially wrote this post, I was worried that I would step on people’s toes. But since people thought I was the bad guy because my step-mom ran her mouth around, then here is the truth.

She filed a paper that apparently my dad signed, but it was illegal because she was his power of attorney. On my dad’s death bed, she was going through his jewelry box calculating how much money (out loud) she could get for different pink diamonds he had. Anyways, There were separate life insurance policies; one for her and one for my brother and I. She wanted them both. When she got the paper work in the mail that my brother and I were suppose to fill out, she freaked. Then she consulted an attorney and told me not to fill it out. Can you say shady? Then she said she would give us $1000, but in bonds. When I said we could use it now, she said “oh I would only have to pay like $30 and she would get it when she was 18”. But she told my family I was money hungry. She also told me I needed my grandmother’s China cabinet (when she was moving to an assisted living facility) so I asked my grandmother, then my step-mom told everyone I was just money hungry and wanting things. Told them I was never around before my dad passed when I would come there everyday on my way home from work. She said to me I should have quit my job to take care of my dad, but yet she had no job and was his 15 year younger wife. 

 I had the paperwork because she gave it to me before she freaked out not knowing what to do and so I decided to call them, they told me to fill out the paperwork and to not listen to anything she said. 

Unfortunately I consulted a lawyer friend (who wasn’t practicing in our state) that made us more scared by saying my step-mother could drag this out for years costing us a bunch of money that we didn’t have if we were to fight. We were young (24 and 26) with a baby on the way. So we went to mediation with her. We said we would split it into thirds. She got pissed and said my husband was running everything, this was on purpose so she wouldn’t run all over my brother and I. I shouldn’t have done the mediation because I was suppose to be in bed rest because of my blood pressure. She said that she always treated me like her own daughter, which was never true. She was always cruel to me and jealous of me. She would purposely go out of her way to be mean to me.

When we received our portion of the life insurance money, we went to her apartment and saw she was driving a red Mustang. She had bought a new car. This is how we knew she was lying and found out about the other policy, plus my mom had told me later. 

This is why I believe in helping your children even when they are adults. Make a safe place so they feel like they can come to you for advice.

My step-mom is now remarried, but only in the Lord’s eyes as she straight up told me to my face so she can keep receiving my dad’s social security and veterans benefits.”

On a happier note, Greg got his promotion!!! :D

And I felt the baby move again today and she was moving ALOT!

That's really all. I'll go into more detail about stuff when I can. Now, off to find something to eat! :]

BTW I don't know what I would do without my husband, He is my rock.

I can't believe he's gone...

Though you cannot always see
the bird singing,
if you listen with your heart,
you can always hear his song.

I got a card that said this and thought it was so beautiful.

Every day I miss him. To think that I will never see his face again. He would have been a great grandfather. I told Greg that I want him to make sure he tells his dad just how important he is to him and tell him he loves him everyday because you never when their time on earth will be over. My daddy suffered for seven years. After his stroke it was like he was given a second chance at life but a limited one. He could walk but with difficulties, my step-mom had to help him get dressed and fix his meals. She says she feels lost without him and that she doesn't know what to do with her life anymore. I'm so grateful to have her in my life, I don't know what I would do without her. Cancer is just one of those things that is like luck of the draw. And that's why I want Greg and his sisters to tell their father how much he means today because they may not know if he'll have a tomorrow.

I know it's really late and I need to go to bed. But I needed to get this out. I love him so much. Just because I can't see him doesn't mean he isn't with me. ♥