Nanny to Mommy

As a parent, your job is to ensure that your children live the best possible life. In order to do this, they need to make sure they do a few things right. They need to always keep on the move, they need to be kind to those around them, and they need to be positive throughout most instances. If they can get these things right, then they’ll stand a great chance of living a full and happy existence. Life tends to be surprisingly straightforward most of the time, so this shouldn’t be that much of a worry. We often build lots of aspects up, only to find out that they weren’t anywhere near as difficult as we’d initially anticipated!

Throughout that list of actions, we mentioned that your child should live a positive life. Positivity is one of the main things a person will need in life if they’re to be happy and successful, of course. This is obvious, but not everyone adopts this kind of mindset. You’re their parent, so you are tasked with bringing them up with the right attitude towards life. Whatever happens, you’ll want your kid(s) to fully embrace the situations and come out of them with big smiles on their faces.

They won’t just be positive, though. While the brain likes to release happy chemicals and allow us to feel happy a lot of the time, basic science won’t cover all bases. Often, our thoughts are based on our surroundings and who we have been brought up by. If you were brought up by pessimistic parents, you’ll likely be that way yourself. The brain behaves the way it does because it has been trained to do so. If you spend years thinking a certain way, then it will become second nature to you.

So, with all that said, here are a few things you might want to do if you’re to raise a child that ends up living a positive life with a gleeful, happy attitude:

If you adopt this kind of mindset and think positively every single day, then your children are going to copy you. You’d be surprised at just how much they look up to you and see you as a beacon of how to live life. The things you say will be incontrovertibly true and your actions will be mirrored. So, if you’re thinking negatively and worrying about absolutely everything – guess how they’re going to behave! It’s easy to simply just say that you’re going to become more positive, but it really is achievable if you train your brain to do it. It’s a case of practice every single day. Keep going until it literally becomes a habitual thing.

If your child knows that, whatever he/she does, they’ll be loved, then they’ll have the confidence to do anything. It sounds like a ridiculously simple and easy concept, but it works. Think about it: when you were little, did you feel much better when you had the backing of your mother and father? Of course, you did. They’ll happily go out and try new things while being positive about the outcome if they know everything’s going to be okay in the end. If they have the love and acceptance of their parents, then very few else actually matters.

Whenever things go a little wrong or you have a lot of work to do, it’s easy to think ‘woe is me’. Lots of people let out a large sigh and curse their bad luck. The best kind of response to any kind of adversity is to view them all as challenges. Decide that there are invisible boxes to be ticked and that you’ll do what you can to tick them. The more things you go through in life, the more accomplished you become – so take the hard work on. They might be quite difficult at times, but they’ll be thankful for some of them when they’re more accomplished and positive about tough situations later on in life.

If your children are continually up and doing productive things, then they’re going to feel a lot better about themselves and about life in general. There’s something about keeping on the move that makes us feel a lot better. Even if we’re active indoors, it’s much better than just sitting around and thinking about certain parts of life. When we move, our brain rewards us with happy chemicals. This then promotes more positive thinking. So, even if you feel as though you don’t have much to do, it’s wise to find something. Sitting around and being lazy is nice every now and again, but too much of it can become a bad habit that leads to overthinking and general negativity.

This point sort of follows on from the previous one in that it’s about keeping yourselves on the move. If you have things to look forward to, then everyone will be positive about the future. They’ll be more inclined to try new things because there will be a happy reward and the end of it all. The kids would love nothing more than to head to Disneyland. They get to live out their dreams while you look for the best shade spots at Blizzard Beach and plenty of other important aspects. If the kids know that they’re going to have very enjoyable moments going forward, then they’ll be way more optimistic about the life they have in front of them.

In this society, we like to view failure as a bad thing. When someone does something wrong or doesn’t quite hit the heights expected of them, they are often laughed at or ridiculed. This shouldn’t be happening. Kids shouldn’t be taught that losing and failing is terrible.

When they eventually mess something up (which they will do – lots of times), they should be reminded that it’s all about the end goal. Everybody fails – the best have failed thousands of times. It’s literally the only way to really learn and then succeed. If they know this, then they won’t worry about making a mess of a situation – they’ll happily go forth and try new things.

When they need help with something, you’ll want to make sure that you have their back. There will be times where they’ll need to learn how to do something on their own, but the extremely difficult times will require assistance. Whether it’s assistance in the moment or a shoulder to cry on after the fact, just make sure you’re there for them. If they know they have that safety net, then things become a lot simpler to deal with.

As we’ve mentioned before, a person’s behavior and thoughts are based on their surroundings and environment. If they have friends who are a bad influence, then they’re going to take plenty of mannerisms from them. You’ll want to keep an eye on who they spend their time around. Of course, controlling who their friends are might be a little silly, but just ensuring they aren’t being poorly influenced is smart.

Kids should have the backing of their parents regarding any kind of interest or hobby. Parents dictating the lives of their kids makes for poor viewing. Make sure you encourage your children with whatever they want to do. If it makes them happy, then it should make you happy, too. If what they enjoy makes you feel uneasy, then you might want to take a look at yourself and re-evaluate your feelings.

We’ve mentioned how you should have their back through thick and thin, but you should also allow them to speak freely about what they might be going through. Talking about problems doesn’t exactly make them go away immediately, but they help out so much with things like mental health. If you allow them to speak and get things off their chest, then they’ll be much happier with their day-to-day lives.

This is something that kids tend to do anyway, but it sort of falls away as they grow up. They start to take things a little more seriously and begin to feel a little more embarrassed. This mainly comes from the pressure in schools and friendship groups, of course. If you can laugh at yourself, then you’ll likely be a much more positive person overall. Let them know that not everything needs to be serious. A lot of worries and negativity tend to come from problems that we have within. So, if we can take things in life a little less seriously, then it makes everything a lot easier to deal with.