How to Remain Sane While Going Through a Divorce

Divorce is usually one of the most traumatic experiences that anyone could go through. You were once in a space where you thought you were safe and secure, and then it turned out that you weren’t safe at all to begin with. It can be terrifying, especially now having to deal with unexpected changes that you hoped to have never gone through, to begin with. But in the end, it’s something sadly that has to be done.

While this is a traumatic event, you need to stay strong. While yes, that’s far easier said than done, you need to give yourself that safety and security that only you can give yourself. With that being said, it’s also important to give yourself a chance to prepare, such as with a divorce checklist. It’s hard to stay mentally stable during this tough time, but you can do it. So here are some ways to stay sane while taking on this divorce.

Lawyer Up
While a lawyer like can’t solve all your problems during the divorce itself, you can trust that a good one will help lead you through. You just need to keep in mind that they are professionals, after all. So you can expect them to give you guidance and their professional opinion on what you can do to navigate all of this.

Plus, there’s a very high chance that they’ve worked with your spouse's lawyer as well, so they’re going to know what to expect from the opposing party. Overall, you’re going to feel lost and confused through all of this, and the best way to get through all of this would be to get a good lawyer (maybe even a “bulldog lawyer,” as they’re called to help fight for your side.

Take Care of Yourself
Practicing self-care is important to maintaining your mental well-being during a divorce. It can be especially beneficial to maintain a routine of regular exercise and meditation. Physical activities like yoga, running, walking, swimming, and strength training are great ways to keep your body healthy while helping your mind feel better. A healthy diet is also an essential component of maintaining your physical health during a divorce.

This is because the stress from a divorce can increase your risk of certain diseases, so make sure to eat well while going through this life change. Plus, eating well is going to help you stay away from junk food and use that as a coping mechanism. It can be hard to spend time with friends while you’re dealing with a divorce, but it’s crucial to find the time to do so. Spending quality time with friends who understand you and can be supportive is important during this difficult time in your life.

Practice Self Care
This technically goes in part with taking care of yourself, but there’s more than just the standard health aspect you need to keep in mind. For starters, self-care is a part of exercising and having a healthy diet, but it can still go above that. It means crying when you feel like crying; it means relaxing when you think it’s best; it means standing up for yourself and validating your feelings. It can help you manage stress, anxiety, and depression, among other symptoms.

One of the most important ways to practice self-care during a divorce is to surround yourself with supportive friends and family. This can help you feel less isolated and better able to cope with the stress of a divorce. Be sure to give yourself the chance to breathe, take it all in, allow yourself to relax, and just socialize. Overall, validate yourself and how you feel. Your worth is not based on this divorce; this relationship never affected your worth. Give yourself a lot of love and care while you deal with this.

Try Not to Get Caught Up on Your Ex
Getting caught up in your ex’s actions can lead to anger, bitterness, and resentment. This can make it difficult to move on with your life and find happiness again. This is probably one of the more tough parts of dealing with divorce. You’re going to feel a lot of negative thoughts, especially if your ex appears to be happy and seems to be moving on from this. Even if it seems like they’re trying to make your life a struggle, it’s understandable to get caught up in anger. But it’s best not to talk to them, avoid them, and create boundaries with friends and family that you don’t want to hear about them. No news is good news, as this is going to be the only way to move on. If you need to communicate with them, make sure if through your lawyer.

Avoid Setting Unrealistic Expectations
Divorce isn’t exactly depicted accurately in shows and movies. When it comes to divorce, too many people enter the process with unrealistic expectations. This can lead to a lot of frustration, stress, and heartache. It’s not easy, and it can be difficult to navigate the legal system. But if you and your spouse are clear on what to expect, the divorce process will go much more smoothly. If you’re unsure whether your expectations are reasonable, speak with an experienced family law attorney. They’ll help you create realistic expectations and avoid costly mistakes. They’ll also make sure that you’re getting what you need from your divorce.

Don’t Overcommit
It sounds odd, the thought of overcommitting during a divorce, but this is far more common than you may think. This can be overcommitting to making all parties happy, trying to keep the kids happy and content, your work, family relationships, friends, you name it. Usually, when something traumatic like this happens, overcommitment eventually comes to be.

If you’re struggling to cope with the stress of a divorce, it can be easy to overcommit yourself. That can lead to exhaustion, burnout, and even depression. You can prevent overcommitment by creating strong boundaries that protect your own well-being. Start by identifying what activities and relationships create unnecessary stress and what brings you joy.

Try Your Best to Stay Positive
This is one of those things that’s honestly easier said than done, but you need to remember that there will be light at the end of the tunnel. Divorce is a traumatic experience. The emotions that come along with it can cause you to lash out at your former spouse or yourself in a negative way. Rather than trying to mask your feelings, try to stay positive during this time.

Practicing mindfulness meditations can help you remain calm and focused, allowing you to keep your focus on the future rather than the past. While it sounds cliche, you need to tell yourself that eventually, you’ll do better; you’ll do better than ever before. You just need to remind yourself of this.

Don’t Turn Towards Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms
During traumatic experiences, a lot of people will turn to drugs or alcohol. In fact, it’s very common for those who are going through a divorce to turn towards alcohol as well. Needless to say, you’re only going to make things significantly worse for yourself if you do this. So you’re going to want to avoid this at all costs. Instead, think about healthier methods such as going out with friends, meeting new people, turning to a new hobby, or something else that could make you happy and healthy. Unhealthy methods, including overindulging in food or shopping, are only going to make things worse and could even turn into an addiction.

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